Letting go...

Accepting change and knowing that which I held before, no longer serves me. 

So much stuff!

I've kept so many things thinking I might use or wear them someday. This process is helping me shift away from someday and focus more on today. Simplify, my mantra this month. 

Simplify

A pattering of rain

on the new eaves

brings me awake.

Koji

50 items cleared, 250 to go. 

31 Days to an Uncluttered Home!

This month's challenge (to recycle or donate 10 items every day) will unclutter my closets, but I'm hoping it will also simplify my home and create more detachment to personal belongings. I am inspired by Leo's blog at http://mnmlist.com/ but my minimalism ambitions are not quite as extreme as Leo's.

As with most of my other monthly challenges, there is often an unexpected result that comes into being but only time will tell on this one...

During the first few days, the decison about what to let go of are quite simple, but I know that as the month progresses, I'm going to have to reach a bit further. In preparation, the following principles that I've read over the years may help:

• If I haven't worn it/used it in a year, let it go.
• If it doesn't work, let it go.
• If it is worn, let it go.
• If it isn't beautiful, let it go.
• If I'm saving it "just in case I'll need it someday", let it go. Live in the now.
• Everything I own should have value because I need it or I love it.
• Do not keep gifts I've received out of guilt. Better to let it go and give it a more noble purpose in the world by someone who will use it.
• I'm trying not to buy anything this month, but if I do, I need to let go of something in it's place (above and beyond the 300 items I'm already striving for)

Just like every word in a Haiku is necessary, beautiful, and meaningful, so should all my personal belongings follow that same guideline. And with that, another batch of ten is assembled for departure.



Liberation from clutter

Over the wintry 

forest, winds howl in rage

with no leaves to blow.

- Natsume Soseki 

Dishes be gone

I'm embarrassed to admit I have dishes that are still in their original boxes. 

Wasted space, wasted money, wasted resources.

Simplify.

Live like a Haiku in June

I love poetry, in all its marvelous forms. The haiku is remarkable  - in just 17 syllables, a good haiku can convey beauty, meaning, and transformation. Despite the limiting constraint of just three short lines (5 syllables, 7 syllables, 5 syllables), poets can express profound meaning. Every word of a haiku is conscious, deliberate, and necessary - and results in a simplistic, beautiful, inspiring expression. 

And so begins my month of transforming my home using the same principles of the haiku. Every belonging is conscious, deliberate, and necessary - and results in a simplistic, beautiful, inspiring expression. 

The idea - Donate or recycle 10 items every single day during the month of June. 

To liberate.  To transform. To simplify. 

Why reflecting on death can bring about meaning and purpose

Excerpt from http://www.accesstoinsight.org/lib/authors/gunaratna/wheel102.html:

"This contemplation of death is one of the classical meditation-subjects treated in the Visuddhi Magga which states that in order to obtain the fullest results, one should practice this meditation in the correct way, that is, with mindfulness (sati), with a sense of urgency (samvega) and with understanding (ñana).

For example, suppose a young disciple fails to realize keenly that death can come upon him at any moment, and regards it as something that will occur in old age in the distant future; his contemplation of death will be lacking strength and clarity, so much so that it will run on lines which are not conducive to success.

How great and useful is the contemplation of death can be seen from the following beneficial effects enumerated in the Visuddhi Magga: — "The disciple who devotes himself to this contemplation of death is always vigilant, takes no delight in any form of existence, gives up hankering after life, censures evil doing, is free from craving as regards the requisites of life, his perception of impermanence becomes established, he realizes the painful and soulless nature of existence and at the moment of death he is devoid of fear, and remains mindful and self-possessed. Finally, if in this present life he fails to attain to Nibbana, upon the dissolution of the body he is bound for a happy destiny."

Thus it will be seen that mindfulness of death not only purifies and refines the mind but also has the effect of robbing death of its fears and terrors, and helps one at that solemn moment when he is gasping for his last breath, to face that situation with fortitude and calm. He is never unnerved at the thought of death but is always prepared for it. It is such a man that can truly exclaim, "O death, where is thy sting?"

Reflection through Haiku

My life, -
How much more of it remains?
The night is brief.

- Shiki

To seek out new life and new civilizations....

"Someone once told me that time was a predator that stalked us all our lives. But I rather believe that time is a companion who goes with us on the journey and reminds us to cherish every moment because they'll never come again. What we leave behind is not as important as how we've lived."

~ Captain Jean-Luc Picard

The Portable Atheist

“Death is certain, replacing both the siren-song of Paradise and the dread of Hell. Life on this earth, with all its mystery and beauty and pain, is then to be lived far more intensely: we stumble and get up, we are sad, confident, insecure, feel loneliness and joy and love. There is nothing more; but I want nothing more.” – Christopher Hitchens, The Portable Atheist

I'm ordering this book today... 

I'm also enjoying this quote from Orwell, especially the "humanist attitude"...

“A normal human being does not want the Kingdom of Heaven: he wants life on earth to continue. This is not solely because he is ‘weak,’ ‘sinful’ and anxious for a ‘good time.’ Most people get a fair amount of fun out of their lives, but on balance life is suffering, and only the very young or the very foolish imagine otherwise. Ultimately it is the Christian attitude which is self-interested and hedonistic, since the aim is always to get away from the painful struggle of earthly life and find eternal peace in some kind of Heaven or Nirvana. The humanist attitude is that the struggle must continue and that death is the price of life.” – George Orwell, “Lear, Tolstoy and the Fool”

Seven Pounds

I just watched the last seven minutes of Seven Pounds. I love this film - it's beautiful, original, thought-provoking, and overflowing with love and tears.

Would I live my life differently if someone had died to give me my beating heart?

no death, no fear

A friend recommended "no death, no fear" as part of my Morbid March exploration. I started the book tonight. In the initial pages, the book is already serving as a poignant reminder that our views on death are intrinsically tied to our views on religion. I know this to be true, but this book reminds me how separated I am from those who follow a religion. Yes, naturally our views on death are different. But, more importantly, and more interesting to me, is how will our religious views, or lack of a religious view, define meaning and purpose.

If the examination of death will lead to a better understanding of life, then the results of my investigative journey will be from the viewpoint of an atheist (with compassion and love and appreciation for alternative and religious viewpoints)

I'm peering down the rabbit hole...

Celebration of Life - checklists

I started the process of researching funeral and "celebration of life" checklists. Just as I suspected, it is overwhelming! I can't imagine sorting through all this while grieving - and I know my grieving is dramatic and all-consuming - so I'm glad I'm making an attempt to prepare all of this for me and for my family now, while there is nothing to grieve.

Turns out, there are no easy-to-follow, comprehensive checklists that are quickly found online, so I started building my own. I'm using excel and compiling good questions and recommendations from sites like:

http://www.obituaryguide.com/template.php
http://celebratelives.wordpress.com/checklist-and-instructions-at-my-death/
http://elegantmemorials.com/funeral-service-checklist
and many more...

This is daunting. I'm trying to just focus on the logistics, not the emotional ramifications of loss, at this point.

More work to do, but the process is started. I'll have more details soon, but for now, I'm hoping to create celebrations for me and for my family that are loving, meaningful, and that truly celebrate and capture the essense of our time here on this earth. Easier blogged than done...

Tuesdays with Morrie on a Thursday

Finished Tuesdays with Morrie today. I enjoyed the read. I found Morrie delightful, but Mitch's writing derivitive. How rude of me to critique a writer for attempting such a noble literary work. But I felt like I've read this before and aside from a few noteworthy lines of text, most of the writing quality was ordinary at best.

I loved getting to know Morrie.... some meaningful anaphorisms that I will carry with me...

“So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when they're busy doing things they think are important. This is because they're chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.”
“Don't cling to things because everything is impermanent.”
"Everyone knows they're going to die,' he said again, 'but nobody believes it. If we did, we would do things differently.”

Thoughts on aging...

I had a wonderful talk tonight with a dear friend of mine. Gigi lights up a room. She has this energy and aura that embraces you. And when she holds your hand or looks you in the eye, you feel connected in a way that is so often lost in the fast-paced, technology-laden communication of today.

She is 83.

We spoke of many things, but two related to aging that I thought were relevant this month. At 83, she knows this for sure:

• She can say no. She can say no gracefully and without guilt. She can say no even if the cause is noble, because time is precious and she can now be selective with her time.
• She has chosen her friends carefully. She knows she doesn't have to spend time with anyone whose energy isn't positive or enriching. She knows who her true friends are and she relishes her time with them.
• Friendships, true and genuine friendships, are to be nurtured and treasured.

After our conversation, I also know this for sure... there is love. Love in friendship. Love in family. And there is a love in soul mates. As Gigi said, "he" is out there. He is born. And we will find each other.

The last tidbit isn't related to my monthly theme.... but perhaps it is. Perhaps in examining the meaning of death, I should remember that love has to be part of the answer.

Thank you, dear Gigi.

A little night meandering... in the form of a poem...

Because I Could not Stop for Death
by Emily Dickinson

Because I could not stop for Death—
He kindly stopped for me—
The Carriage held but just Ourselves—
And Immortality.

We slowly drove—He knew no haste
And I had put away
My labor and my leisure too,
For His Civility—

We passed the School, where Children strove
At Recess—in the Ring—
We passed the fields of Gazing Grain—
We passed the Setting Sun—

Or rather—He passed Us—
The Dews drew quivering and chill—
For only Gossamer, my Gown—
My Tippet—only Tulle—

We paused before a House that seemed
A Swelling of the Ground—
The Roof was scarcely visible—
The Cornice—in the Ground—

Since then—'tis Centuries—and yet
Feels shorter than the Day
I first surmised the Horses' Heads
Were toward Eternity—

 

I Heard A Fly Buzz When I Died
by Emily Dickinson

I heard a fly buzz when I died;
The stillness round my form
Was like the stillness in the air
Between the heaves of storm.

The eyes beside had wrung them dry,
And breaths were gathering sure
For that last onset, when the king
Be witnessed in his power.

I willed my keepsakes, signed away
What portion of me I
Could make assignable, and then
There interposed a fly,

With blue, uncertain, stumbling buzz,
Between the light and me;
And then the windows failed, and then
I could not see to see.

Tuesdays with Morrie

Today, I read 110 pages of Tuesdays with Morrie. I have heard about this book for years, but never read it. I'm guilty of often ignoring mainstream bestsellers... literary snobbery, I know. But, I'm happy that my friend Heather recommended it for this month.

Here are two of my favorite quotes so far...

“The truth is, once you learn how to die, you learn how to live.” 

“So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when they're busy doing things they think are important. This is because they're chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.”

What does this mean to me? The first quote reminds me of how important it is to consider our own mortality. In understanding the certainty of death and facing the uncertainty of the timing, I will naturally change the course of my life. By facing death, I should consider the life I want to create for the remainder of my days.... however long they may be.

The second quote is especially poignant. I have dedicated much of my life to my work - I find joy, reward, and challenge in my work supporting a non-profit environmental organization. However noble, I need to remember that even non-profit work can be overly-consuming and can drive away meaning if I'm not careful. Most days, I love my work and I'm grateful for the fulfillment. On rare days, I know that I work too much (70 hour weeks are not sustainable) and I sacrifice too much. Is more balance in order, or is it time to tip the scales in a new direction, or is it time to throw out the scales entirely?

 

Fresh Foods February

As much as I love these daily endeavors and monthly goals, some months do not go as planned. During the few months that I've missed the mark, it's either because the goal seemed less exciting to me than originally planned or life is just too busy to make time for the goals. I can handle the former and I'm open to changing plans. The latter can be disappointing since I want to make these projects a priority, but the reality of a demanding job can sometimes foil my best intentions.

In February, I had planned for an entire month of unprocessed, whole foods. The first few weeks, I had about a 30% success rate with even less success in the last half of the month.

On the bright side, I soon after discovered the Nutribullet! A friend introduced me to it while we were talking about Fresh Food February. It's amazing and has transformed my way of eating. It's a simple, easy way to have fruits and vegetables every single day. I've been using it to replace my lunches on most days, and sometimes as a snack or a breakfast. I've occasionally used it replace dinners if I had a large lunch during the day. 

Combinations such as:

• Spinach, carrots, apples, water, flax or chia seeds
• Spinach, carrots, bananas, apples, water, flax or chia seeds
• Spinach, mango, pineapple, water, flax or chia seeds
• Banana, peanut butter, milk
• Kale, bananas, pineapple, strawberries, flax seeds

I love my Nutribullet! Even though my whole foods month was a bust, I discovered the Nutribullet which I would have NEVER found otherwise. 

June 1, 2013 Update: I'm still using my Nutribullet about 4 times a week. I love it !

Nutribullet

Expenses Revisited

In order to maximize available credit cards with sign-up bonuses, I'll have to be more creative about using my credit card for ALL purchases. So, I'm shifting more of my payments to credit cards - such as my annual car insurance. Tonight, I shifted my monthly cable/internet bill to a credit card.

I'm still waiting on the Blue Bird AmEx so I can load with vanilla reloads and pay my rent (hope this works!)

Elite Status

I know I need to focus on this area, so I'm going to tackle my top loyalty programs to determine what I need to do to get elite status. Reminds me of one of my favorite movies "Up in the Air"....

From the ever-helpful Chris:
"Get elite status wherever you live—and then get it elsewhere.
Travel companies offer “elite status” to their preferred and most frequent customers. Why should you care about such a thing? Because at hotels you’ll get free upgrades, free breakfast, free internet, late check-out, and other perks. On airlines you’ll get priority boarding, priority seating, upgrades (sometimes), and better help if something goes wrong.

You can often get elite status through a “challenge” where you agree to complete a certain amount of travel in a certain period of time. In other cases you can simply call up and request a status match.

One way of getting elite status without traveling much at all is by registering for free when it’s available as a limited-time offer. This happens several times a year with many different hotels and airlines.

You may wonder why you’d get an elite status from a company you don’t expect to patronize. Status matching is the answer: you can use it to gain elite status from a company you do expect to patronize. "

Need miles? Mint 'em!

Quick tip From Chris: "By the way, if you’re worried about not being able to spend enough to qualify for multiple mileage bonuses, there’s a trick for this too: buy $1 coins from the U.S. Mint. They come in boxes of $250 each, and you can exchange them at your bank for the same value. With free shipping, it won’t cost you anything at all, and you’ll also earn additional miles for the “purchase” of the coins."

Wwoof - Organic farm volunteer program

I kept seeing references to this, but dismissed the links initially. Now I'm intrigued. This might be an enlightening and rewarding way to travel and meet new people. The physical labor would be good for my mind and body, while also connecting me with nature and grounding me in the natural food cycle. The more I read about it, the  more I'm interested!

The details:

"Visitors, or ‘WWOOFers’, spend about half a day on a host farm, learn about the organic movement and sustainable agriculture, and receive room and board - with no money exchanged between hosts and WWOOFers. WWOOF is an educational and cultural exchange program. WWOOFing is a way to learn practical farming skills, be part of the organic agriculture movement, and experience the heart of American agrarian culture." 



Main site is here, http://www.wwoof.org/, with additional sites for farms around the world!

Planning for Bumps!

Think, rethink. Evaluate, reevaluate.

I've known that when a flight is oversold, the airlines will often offer a free ticket to anyone who is willing to be bumped to the next available flight. I've sat in airports and wished I could take their offer, but I was always following a structured itinerary and wasn't willing to change plans.

So.... why not plan for a bump? The original idea came from a friend of mine - a suggestion to take advantage of more of those offers. Immersed in this month of travel hacking, it dawned on me that I should plan for a bump. In other words, schedule my flights to allow for potential bumps and even choose flights that are nearly full or that overbook often. Brilliant! Why not spend a few extra hours in an airport, reading a wonderful book, in order to gain a new travel voucher?

Whenever possible, I should also arrive to the gate earlier and volunteer to be bumped should the flight be oversold or overweight.

Easy travel hacking strategy - the only cost is a few extra hours at an airport with a great book!

Mystery Shopper for Travellers

Mystery shopping locally has alway seemed like a burden. Too much research, hassle, and documentation for such small rewards. However, there might be opportunities for travel mystery shoppers. Brought ot my attention by The Professional Hobo's blog, here is the link: http://www.evaluateitbysqm.com/EvaluateIt/

I read through the site and it appears there is an estimated 50% discount on travel and dining. I completed the brief survey to apply. I'm not convinced it will be worth my time, but I'm willing to test it out this month.

Driving across the country, for free!

This won't get me to Paris, and it requires an investment of time. Nevertheless, it's still an weapon to keep in my travel hacking arsenol.

http://www.autodriveawaydc.com/carlist.html


"In North America, there are a lot of companies that will pay you to drive someone's car from point A to point B. Maybe they are moving, or the car was bought online – who knows, but you are essentially a car courier. They give you the car, a date to get it to the destination, and gas money. It's great for long-distance travel. In Canada, hittheroad.ca is the major national company. It's hard to find a national company in the US, but this website provides a good directory of cars on the move: Autodriveaway."

Couchsurfing! It's real!

So no travel hacking month would be complete without a day on couchsurfing. Is it real? Are there really people in the world who would open their homes up to strangers, for free? And, would it be safe for woman travelling on her own? Seems the answer is a resounding yes!

Couchsurfing is a community of over 5 million members in 97,000 cities — and every country — around the world. Our website connects travelers and locals who meet offline to share cultures, hospitality and adventures – whether on the road or in their hometowns.

Our Mission is simple: Create inspiring experiences.

We envision a world where everyone can explore and create meaningful connections with the people and places they encounter. Building meaningful connections across cultures enables us to respond to differences with curiosity, appreciation and respect. The appreciation of diversity spreads tolerance and creates a global community.

At the Couchsurfing headquarters in San Francisco, we’re working tirelessly to create the greatest possible online platform for our community to achieve its goals.

I'm not signing up quite yet, but this is a top site to save and one that I can't wait to experiment with.

Servas

I kept seeing travel hacking sites mentioning Servas. Tonight's research was all about Servas. It's fascinating and it's noble, but I'm not sure it is for me. I love the ambassadors of peace concept. It's hard to believe this exists given society's fear of strangers and lack of cultural exchanges. But Servas exists and it's beautiful. I don't think it would afford me the kind of freedom I want when I travel, but it's nice to know about programs like this. It has value and is worth sharing and definitely worth the research tonight. Rather than repost the content, you can discover the details yourself here: http://servas.org//content/blogcategory/40/75/

Keeping up with the details

Today was a documentation and implementation day, rather than a research day.

• Bought 5 cheap items at Z Pizza to get my American Airlines Dining Loyalty program started. Once I hit 12 purchases, I'll start accruing points faster. The cashier was a little confused but still was happy to run each item through as a separate transaction.
• Activated my Blue Sapphire card, set up my online account, established autopay, and registered the card to the AA Dining Loyalty program.
• Activated by Hilton card with the same details as above.
• Made an online purchase using Sapphire, and used the store portal to get 3 times the points.
• Booked a hotel using Sapphire card, and used the store portal to get 3 times the points at Hotels.com.

Busy day and more to come this week!

Another cheap airfare finder

Move over cheaptickets.com....

I started the month speculating that there had to be better sites out there to push me past the old, familiar (but reliable) cheaptickets and priceline. Here is a new one.... http://www.whichbudget.com/

This came recommended from this site which has a few gems contained, but more on that tomorrow!

Priceline... just got better!

Quick tip today...

I'm a big fan of Priceline. I've been using this site since 2000. My first flight was a roundtrip to Italy for less than $500 and I've been using Priceline for some flights and all of my hotels since then.

I just came across this website, which helps the bidding process. I can't wait to try it out on my next booking.

Signing off for now... happy hacking!